Fair warning, Part 2 is kind of long… Okay, before we get to the topic of middle ground, it’s important to shine a spotlight on the “N” word… No. Also, I’ve thrown in a bit about feelings and conclude with … Continue reading →
WANTING From the moment we enter the world vulnerable and naked, we want. Want warmth, comfort, connection, sustenance, attention. At first we want our basic needs met – clean diaper, warm milk, loving touch, sleep, sensory stimulation. Our wants grow … Continue reading →
This Zen koan I read early this morning nicely sums up my practice: ******************************************************************** An aging master grew tired of his apprentice’s complaints. One morning, he sent him to get some salt. When the apprentice returned, the master told him … Continue reading →
When unpleasant things happen, it is so very tempting and almost second nature for us to blame the tangible, the external circumstances, others, malfunctioning things. Unfortunately, blaming, revenge, avoidance, ignoring, and telling ourselves to just forget about it and move … Continue reading →
A flat tire is a tangible annoyance. Homework problems are tangible. Annoying siblings are tangible. Traffic jams, paper jams, spilled juice, and crumbs… all tangible issues. It’s easy to point a blaming finger at the weather, the crabby sales clerk, … Continue reading →
I have noticed that it’s difficult and rather uncomfortable to sit in silence with a loved one or otherwise significant relationship who is suddenly unhappy. By in silence, I do not mean ignoring them, puttering on your phone, or listening … Continue reading →
Happiness is a choice. Many people seem to think that the pursuit of happiness is an external process. While there are external things and situations we want, achieving and acquiring them generates a limited burst of good thoughts and feelings. … Continue reading →
I have noticed that it’s difficult and rather uncomfortable to sit in silence with a loved one or otherwise significant relationship who is suddenly unhappy. By in silence, I do not mean ignoring them, puttering on your phone, or listening … Continue reading →