As I mentioned in the last blog post, I’ve been reading Dr. Susan Forward’s book, Emotional Blackmail and got to the hard part… You know, where it takes two to tango and staying in victim position actually equates to actively … Continue reading →
(Upon reflection, it seems to me that this blog post is an apropos follow-up to the Wanting & Letting Go blog posts…) Lately, I’ve been reading a powerful book written by Susan Forward, Ph.D called Emotional Blackmail and I am … Continue reading →
Fair warning, Part 2 is kind of long… Okay, before we get to the topic of middle ground, it’s important to shine a spotlight on the “N” word… No. Also, I’ve thrown in a bit about feelings and conclude with … Continue reading →
WANTING From the moment we enter the world vulnerable and naked, we want. Want warmth, comfort, connection, sustenance, attention. At first we want our basic needs met – clean diaper, warm milk, loving touch, sleep, sensory stimulation. Our wants grow … Continue reading →
“If you REALLY love me like you claim, you will [fill in the blank] to prove it.” THE DEMANDS… Some classic examples of what ransom demands might fill in the blank include: have unprotected intercourse with me buy/give me something … Continue reading →
There is a treasure trove of wonderful writing that can be found on the internet these days. Some of it is too good to just enjoy and move on. Therefore, I will use this post to share the latest ones … Continue reading →
The title of today’s blog post is lifted directly from 12-step literature. But the rest of the post is my response to Mark Manson’s recent post entitled The Staggering Bullshit of “The Secret”. You can read the full post on … Continue reading →
This Zen koan I read early this morning nicely sums up my practice: ******************************************************************** An aging master grew tired of his apprentice’s complaints. One morning, he sent him to get some salt. When the apprentice returned, the master told him … Continue reading →
There is something exciting about the concept of a “new year” and its connotations of wonderful possibilities, starting over, and righting wrongs, and all that happy sappy jazz. HISTORY In the Gregorian calendar, January first is the starting of a … Continue reading →
“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself–nameless,unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.” Franklin D. Roosevelt “Fear is a four-letter word.” Unknown I recently attended a seminar on the newer techniques of … Continue reading →