As I mentioned in the last blog post, I’ve been reading Dr. Susan Forward’s book, Emotional Blackmail and got to the hard part… You know, where it takes two to tango and staying in victim position actually equates to actively … Continue reading →
(Upon reflection, it seems to me that this blog post is an apropos follow-up to the Wanting & Letting Go blog posts…) Lately, I’ve been reading a powerful book written by Susan Forward, Ph.D called Emotional Blackmail and I am … Continue reading →
WANTING From the moment we enter the world vulnerable and naked, we want. Want warmth, comfort, connection, sustenance, attention. At first we want our basic needs met – clean diaper, warm milk, loving touch, sleep, sensory stimulation. Our wants grow … Continue reading →
“If you REALLY love me like you claim, you will [fill in the blank] to prove it.” THE DEMANDS… Some classic examples of what ransom demands might fill in the blank include: have unprotected intercourse with me buy/give me something … Continue reading →
The title of today’s blog post is lifted directly from 12-step literature. But the rest of the post is my response to Mark Manson’s recent post entitled The Staggering Bullshit of “The Secret”. You can read the full post on … Continue reading →
This Zen koan I read early this morning nicely sums up my practice: ******************************************************************** An aging master grew tired of his apprentice’s complaints. One morning, he sent him to get some salt. When the apprentice returned, the master told him … Continue reading →
When unpleasant things happen, it is so very tempting and almost second nature for us to blame the tangible, the external circumstances, others, malfunctioning things. Unfortunately, blaming, revenge, avoidance, ignoring, and telling ourselves to just forget about it and move … Continue reading →
Happiness is a choice. Many people seem to think that the pursuit of happiness is an external process. While there are external things and situations we want, achieving and acquiring them generates a limited burst of good thoughts and feelings. … Continue reading →
Just a reminder for myself and everyone who reads this: Just stop right now and take at least 3 slow, deep breaths – breathing in through the nose if you can and then out through your mouth. Do it with … Continue reading →
Happiness is a choice. Many people seem to think that the pursuit of happiness is an external process. While there are external things and situations we want, achieving and acquiring them generates a limited burst of good thoughts and feelings. … Continue reading →